I never knew what is self worth.
In my school days or college life, I never heard about it.
My parents never mentioned this term.
So why suddenly I learn anything about self worth?
What was the need?
Did people make me explore such concepts about self worth, self love and other concepts?
Was it social media?
Or was it my experiences which made me realize my worth?
The answer is ALL OF THEM.
If I wouldn’t have understood myself, I would have never known the concept of self worth.
So if you are in the same journey of self discovery, self love, and personal development,
I suggest that you read this blog to realize and recognize your self worth and live powerfully.
The blog outline goes like,
- What do you need to know about self worth?
- What is the importance of self worth in determining high quality of your life?
- Things you deserve as a worthy person
- Remove the “I’m not worthy” limiting belief
- Ways to empower yourself and recognize your self worth
What is self worth?
Nobody taught me this, but looking at this term, “self worth,” I think its the realization of the value you naturally have. It’s a cumulative analysis of what you think about yourself, what people think about you, your learnings, experiences, beliefs about yourself and what status you accord to all of these.
Its the inherent, the real value of you in the world. It is not taught to us and it does change to be honest. It all depends on your thinking and your mindset about yourself. We become aware of it based on the thoughts we have about ourselves.
Secondly, you don’t have compare/compete with others in order to know your worth. Your worth is there regardless of any troublesome experience, any incident or past trauma. You have full control over yourself. You hold the power. You decide how people treat you, based on how you treat yourself.
Importance of self worth
How you live is a direct reflection of your self worth.
Your self love shows your self worth to the world. Your fear based beliefs about you can hamper the perceived value people have about you.
The importance of self worth is getting traction nowadays. People are becoming aware of their shadows and working on themselves to be a better version of themselves.
To become better, we need to know that we are continuously improving but at the same time, realize that we are worthy in our existing self.
It is important to imbibe the feeling of positive self worth otherwise a person would always feel the lack of worthiness despite holding pure value.
So why its important?
- It uplifts your vision about yourself and opens a space for good things to come
- It gives the feeling of tackling all the problems with confidence and self-belief
- There is an openness to the unknown, to challenges and growth
- Lastly, there will be personal development, relational success, career growth and zeal of life
Things you deserve as a worthy human being
Now, we understand what is self worth and why its important. Next, we need to understand that as human beings, we deserve certain or “justful” treatments.
We don’t have to pray, beg, or sacrifice our lives for it.
As a person with healthy self worth, it’s not my mistake if I’m treated badly. On the other hand, a person with negative self worth would blame themselves for such a treatment.
So you are worthy of
- Love
- Respect
- Kindness
- Consideration
- Dignity
- Growth
- Security
These are given. As a human being, you don’t have to ask for it or do something extra or unusual to deserve it. Know that these things are freely given, and that we deserve the best in life.
Related- How to Build a Healthy Self Esteem? http://thealphabest.com/how-to-build-a-healthy-self-esteem-a-complete-guide/
Remove “I’m not enough” limiting belief
We all have certain beliefs and values.
We stand up by them.
There are some that are great and help us to live life.
Maybe there are some that protect us from pain and danger.
But there are also some that inhibit or block our growth.
One of those limiting beliefs are, “I’m not worthy.”
Reasons can be many behind this belief. Maybe our past experiences made us believe that. Maybe someone said that to us and we believed it. We may or may not know.
What’s important now is we have recognized this belief in ourselves and we have to remove these blockages and achieve a positive self worth. How?
- Write down an essay on “Why I feel I’m not worthy” for 5 days at the same time and same place. Here. you will notice that certain thoughts come in for you to recognize. Maybe something happened. Maybe you recalled an experience that made you cry. Maybe someone should showed how small you are and how big this world is, or that you are less and this world is more. Repeat this for five days and you’ll know your pain points.
- When you can desire it, you can have it- You are a human being. You have desires. So, why feel that you are unworthy of getting the best in life? We can be whoever we want to be. We just have to follow our intuition and do what we are here to do.
- Say that you deserve the best- Create 10 affirmations around this limiting belief by turning them into positive statements. Say you deserve it. You deserve it because you are a human being.
- Repeat this daily until it fits into your subconscious mind
- Start doing things that align with your positive affirmation. For example, give yourself the love, respect and admiration you deserve. Give it to yourself. That is what you deserve. Make it a habit. Do something for yourself, like a routine. Build a self care routine. This will reinforce the idea that you are worthy of best things happening to you because you are doing them for yourself. What you do for yourself is how the world will respond to your vibration.
Ways to recognize your self worth
This is something that is already there in you. You just have to nurture it and bring it to your consciousness that you are worthy.
That’s it.
How do you do that?
- Ask yourself whether you love, value, and respect yourself. How would you describe yourself in a sentence? Whenever you think about yourself, do you feel positive, negative or a mix of both? Do you believe that you are worthy of the basic things in life and even more that you desire from yourself and others?
- Do what you love- Make a list of things you love. Name it. Is it baking? Or is it tennis? Do you like hot coffee or do you like cold coffee? Once you have the list, start living your life. This activity will give you confidence and thereby boost your self worth. You will do great at what you love which will naturally align with your life goals and bring you to the right opportunities and right people.
- Whenever you fall back to those negative thoughts, recognize it and replace it with the new thought you decided.
- Recognize the things you are already good at- Why search for new things when you are already good at many places. Recognize those positive sides of yourself and start building on them.
- Have a strong belief over yourself- No matter what happens in life, your self belief will take you to places. Believe that you are worthy. That you can lead your life in a meaningful manner. You will fight against all odds and rise victorious.
- Lastly, let things align for you. Trust the timing of your life. Trust God. He will align everything for you. Just do your work, what you can do. Leave the rest to him.
I hope this works for you.
My goal is to help you evolve.
Thanks and see you later.
References- https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-self-worth-6543764